Men share struggles women will never understand
最近的UNC校园案让人震惊和心痛。 几年前听过一个访谈， 说这种凶手往往是male and loners. 为啥都是男的呢？
我家男娃是高中生了。 养娃过程里妈妈发现十几岁的男孩子们跟女孩子们挺不一样的。 比如如果找不到路，他接着拿着手机google map 闷头找路，屡次找不到也不愿意问路。 再比如高中长跑队里，女孩子们热身跑的时候，迎面就像一群嗡嗡嗡的小蜜蜂，还有咕咕轻笑声。 男孩子们只有统一整齐的跑步声， 没有说笑声。
前一阵读到这篇很有启发， 里面30条互相重复， 但总结一下，有实际意义的有这么几条：
https://www.boredpanda.com/men-share-struggles-women-will-never-understand/
1. 男性表达的真实内心感受，会被忽视或嘲笑。
If you don't open up about your feelings you're a toxic man. If you do, you're either being rude or being a pu**y. We're only supposed to have the CORRECT feelings, at the correct time, at everyone else's convenience.
2. 成年后就没有朋友
Maybe you're amiable with work colleagues, maybe you have a game night with some neighbors, but they're barely more than acquaintances. Your last friend was 10, maybe 20 years ago in the before times.
3. 社会的期待值--只是希望男性可以付出，而没人真正关心他的身心健康
Society doesn't really care about the emotional, mental, or social health of men. Chris Rock famously said that only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally; men are loved under the condition of what they can provide.
觉得解药还得是人跟人之间的友谊， 比如跟挚友们的友谊， 跟父母的友谊， 跟生命伴侣的友谊。
