离婚后, 所有的争议/流程已经全部处理完了。 这个时候,如果提出以后再不去看孩子,是不是明智之举?。。。
公用马甲5
楼主 (北美华人网)
顶着锅盖问: 我很喜欢小孩子,但是不堪ex的种种故意恶心折磨。离婚后, 所有的争议/流程全部处理完了。而且我也有更重要的事要做。 这个时候,提出以后再不去看孩子,是不是明智之举? 目前的法院已经通过我们之前的协议: 如果我以后再要孩子抚养权,就是把过年的时间按每年5万给ex; 如果ex再向我要孩子抚养费,ex需要分50%的孩子抚养权给我。
最近一次12月份我和ex的对话记录,以及背景信息如下。 我想在来年一月份, 提出不去看孩子了,根据ex的表达和性格,有多大概率ex会发飚故意找茬?
恳请大家指点,不胜感激
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Ex message:
Our kid has cold/cough/sore throat and exposed to COVID 19. He will need to be isolated/quarantined for the next 10 days. Therefore, he cannot go with you outside on Dec 17th. If you want to meet our kid once he feels better or after he is done quarantine let me know your schedule - otherwise, you can see him next month 1st Saturday like normal. Please let me know your decision once you''ve read this. (ex在过去有这个pattern,不让我看孩子。去年也是这时候,因为ex只有这个时候是长假,想带孩子出去玩。这次故技重施,直接是在规定我可以看孩子的前一天通知我。)
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Me:
I''''m uncertain about whether our kid is sick or not, there''''s no concrete evidence. But since you said so, I believe you, and I won''''t be there this time.Thank you (去了法庭估计最多要回丢失的探视时间,还耗时耗力,所以我回答不去了)
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Ex message:
Excuse me? Don’t start the fight because I am sick and tired of your words. I am working hard to provide for him for everything. What have you done for him so far? If you want him to get sick more then come and get him today. I already put him on cloth and ready for you. Please come and get him and don’t accuse me. (离婚时我已经给了ex二十多万,现在还故意怪我没给小孩提供更多。 我每次去看孩子需要5小时的路程,ex在法院规定的时间前2小时,又改口说我可以去看孩子,因为ex知道我不可能到达的 & 我不想让孩子“病的”更厉害)
It doesn’t even seem like you want to be his parent. Think about your actions and words and what you have provided for him for each visit just once a month since we had the agreement? (之前我每次都带东西包括书、玩具等等,结果ex故意发了封很正式的信通知我,玩具没擦干净,对小孩有害。从那以后,我每次只去超市买点吃的给孩子,不会再带任何其它东西,结果ex又开始怪我没带其它东西。 反正我怎么做都是错的)
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